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Contact is changing.
You still see your child, but warmth, calls or time together are reducing.
Private parental alienation support group for fathers
A steadier way forward when your child is pulling away or contact has stopped.
Protect the connection you still have. Respond with greater clarity if contact is changing. Build the strength to remain available if contact has stopped.
Speak with a father
3-6 minute application · No payment taken · US and Canada
You may be here
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Contact has stopped.
You are replaying every message and trying not to make the wrong next move.
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It has been months or years.
You have tried many routes and need a way to stay strong, available and purposeful.
The details differ. The need for steadiness does not.
Fathers onlyLive online groupUS and CanadaNot legal adviceNo promise of reconnection
What “near me” is really asking for
You may have searched for a parental alienation support group near you.
Most fathers search for a group because they want to stop carrying this alone. A local specialist room is rare, and the fathers who understand are often spread across different towns, states and provinces.
100k Fathers offers live online support across the US and Canada, but the group is only one layer. Fathers who need deeper structure may be suited to Upward Spiral - 8 weeks. Others are better served by Self-guided.
The aim is not to push every father into the same service. It is to identify the right next step.
The 100k Fathers approach
How to deal with parental alienation
When pushing harder creates more distance, the first move is to become steadier.
The instinct is understandable: explain more, defend yourself, send the perfect message, fight harder or become "super dad". But a child who already feels pressure can experience more effort as more pressure.
Get steady before you act.
Reduce reactivity, rebuild sleep and routines, and stop making important decisions from panic.
Protect every point of contact.
Make time together, messages, handovers and even periods of silence feel safer, not heavier.
Become the lighthouse.
Stay consistent, predictable and available without trying to control the timeline.
Fathers speaking for themselves
Fathers often arrive believing nobody else understands.
The first change is often relief - being heard by fathers who have lived through the same fear, confusion and loss of control.
“I realized I was not alone. I remember feeling this surge of hope that I'm not alone. There's a real person, and he's my age.”Kevin - 8-week program participant
“Prior to coming across your site, I thought I was the only person going through separation from my children and no contact.”A father in 100k Fathers
Some fathers have reconnected with their children. Some have not. These are individual experiences and are not a promise of what will happen in your situation.
The 100k Fathers difference
Why this group is different
This is not a fathers' rights group. It is about strengthening the father and protecting the relationship.
We do not help you attack the other parent, turn your child into evidence or build a strategy around winning. We help you work on the father your child experiences, and on the life you must keep living while the situation remains unresolved.
What we will not help you do
- Prove who is right
- Fight the family court system
- Put the child in the middle
- Treat every interaction as evidence
- Promise a reunion or a timeline
What we will help you build
- Emotional steadiness and self control
- Communication that lowers pressure
- Protection for the child from adult conflict
- Health, purpose and supportive relationships
- A consistent fatherhood presence, even when contact is limited
Three levels of support
The strongest level of support is not the right level for every father.
The first conversation is used to understand fit, not to push one product. Each option has a different purpose and some fathers are better served elsewhere.
Usual entry point
Private fathers group
Weekly live calls, guest sessions and direct connection with fathers at different stages of the same road.
A good fit for fathers who benefit from a live room and are ready to take part at their own pace.
- Live calls every week
- Fathers-only space
- Collective Wisdom Library
- Connection between calls
Most structured
Upward Spiral - 8 weeks
One-to-one guidance with Garry, structured work between calls, and three months inside the Private fathers group.
In our experience, this is where the greatest change takes place because guidance, accountability, daily action and group access are combined.
- Weekly private guidance sessions
- Clear actions and accountability between calls
- Communication guidance based on your situation
- Three months of private group access
- Work across mind, body and relationships
Private and flexible
Self-guided
About ten hours of guidance worked through at your own pace over four weeks, with three months to complete the material.
Often the better choice for fathers who want privacy, need flexibility, or are not suited to guided or group support.
- Start on your own terms
- Private learning experience
- Focus on steadiness and daily habits
- Three months to complete the material
“Not yet,” “not this” and “none of these” are acceptable outcomes from the first conversation. The purpose is to find the right next step, even when that step is not 100k Fathers.
What happens in Upward Spiral - 8 weeks
Why this structure creates the greatest opportunity for change.
The Private fathers group offers belonging. Self-guided offers a private foundation. Upward Spiral - 8 weeks combines one-to-one guidance, daily practices, accountability and group access.
That combination allows the work to adapt as your contact, emotions and choices change from week to week.
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Stabilize the spiral
Understand what stress, fear and loss of control are doing to your body, sleep, decisions and communication.
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Build daily steadiness
Create practical routines that make you harder to knock off balance and more consistent under pressure.
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Understand the dynamic
Recognize pressure, over-correction, loyalty binds and the ways well-meant effort can create more distance.
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Act with intention
Work on what to say, what not to say and how to make present contact, messages and handovers feel safer.
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Prepare for the long view
Recover from setbacks, rebuild the rest of your life and remain available without trying to force the timeline.
“I thought it was going to be sessions about tactics on what to say and do, and it became more about me and growing as a person.”Chris
“There is a period where you reset and build daily practices, so you can focus on what it is you want to create.”Jim
What fathers say after doing the work
The work is personal. So are the outcomes.
These recordings were made afterwards and were not scripted. No one testimonial should be treated as a typical or guaranteed result.
“I remember listening to testimonials and being skeptical, because it sounded impossible that it could be that transformational.”Michael
“It works and it is worth it. There is no silver bullet. You have to work the program. You cannot take a magic pill.”A father after the program
“My biggest regret is that I wish I had found this earlier, but I was not ready then. It happened when it was meant to.”A father on timing
“We are not just creating better fathers. We are creating better men who happen to become better fathers.”A father after the program
100k Fathers does not guarantee reconnection, a court outcome or any specific result. What changes and when differs for every father and every child.
Messages sent afterwards
Unprompted messages, shared with permission.
Real messages provide a different kind of proof - changes in communication, contact, support and how a father is living.
Names and identifying details have been redacted. These are individual experiences, not a promise or a representation of what every father will experience.
Questions fathers ask
The things you may be wondering before you speak to us.
Why 100k Fathers?
The 100,000 is not a number we have reached. It is the number of fathers we are preparing to reunite with their children, the size of the job rather than a record of it.
It gets done one father at a time, and each one of them matters.
What if I still see my children - is it too early?
No. If warmth, time together or communication is changing, early support can help you reduce pressure before contact breaks down further.
The aim is not to diagnose your child or the other parent. It is to become more deliberate about what your child experiences from you now.
What if contact stopped recently?
The first days and weeks can produce panic, repeated messages and a powerful need to fix everything immediately.
We help you slow the situation down, understand what has already happened and avoid adding pressure while you decide the next step.
What if I have not seen my children for years?
You will not be told that one message or one technique will bring them back.
The work is about rebuilding your stability, understanding the long view and remaining a father who is healthy, purposeful and available if an opening appears.
What if I searched for an estrangement support group?
Yes, and you do not have to settle on a word before you speak to us.
Some fathers use "estrangement" because it is the only word they know for sudden distance, hostility or loss of contact. Others have heard "alienation" and do not want it, because it sounds like a diagnosis nobody asked for. Neither changes what we do. What matters is what is actually happening: your children are pulling away, or gone, and what you have tried has not brought them back.
We will listen for whether our lived experience of parental alienation is relevant to your situation. A child's reasons for distance may also be real and deserve to be heard. Where the central issue sits within the father and child relationship itself, qualified therapeutic support is likely the better route, and we will say so.
Is this coaching, counseling or therapy?
Many fathers use the word coaching, and it is the closest familiar term for the eight week programme. We describe it as guidance.
We are not therapists, counselors or clinical treatment providers.
The group is led by Garry and other experienced fathers and is peer support. The guided program is father to father guidance based on lived experience and a structured process.
Where qualified legal, therapeutic or clinical help is needed, that support should sit alongside or instead of 100k Fathers.
Is this legal help?
No. We do not provide legal advice, representation or court strategy. Where qualified legal help is needed, that support should sit alongside or instead of 100k Fathers.
Will this help me reconnect with my child?
Nobody can promise that. Some fathers have reconnected and some have not.
Our role is to help you become steadier, more intentional and better prepared for the contact you have now or any future opportunity for connection.
How do I know which level of support fits?
You do not need to choose from the page. The first conversation is used to understand your situation, what you have already tried and whether the Private fathers group, Upward Spiral - 8 weeks, Self-guided or none of these is the right next step.
"Not yet", "not this" and "no" are honest possible answers.
What does it cost?
The three levels of support have different prices. The relevant option and exact cost are explained before any commitment.
There is no payment in the application form and no pressure to join.
Who is this not for?
We would rather be straight about it than take money from a father it will not help.
- A man looking only for ammunition for a court case
- A man whose goal is changing the family court system
- Anyone whose situation needs clinical support to be steady first. That is not a judgement, and we will say it kindly, but this is habit and guidance work, not treatment
We currently work with fathers in the United States and Canada only.
Your next step
Your next step starts here.
Start with one conversation with a father who understands this road. Tell us what is happening. We will tell you plainly whether 100k Fathers is likely to help.
Speak with a father
3-6 minute application · No payment taken · US and Canada
Garry - a father who reunited with his children
This call is not:
- Legal advice or guidance
- About fighting the system
- A pressure sales call
This call is:
- A space to speak openly about your situation
- An opportunity to speak with a father who reunited with his children
- Clarity on your practical next steps
Hear “not yet” or “not this” if that is the honest answer.